Comments on: Do I have the golden key to Mommy Hell? http://www.maiteagahnia.com/blog/my-life/do-i-have-the-golden-key-to-mommy-hell/ art, photography, life Sun, 15 May 2011 04:36:41 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.5 By: Sonriendo http://www.maiteagahnia.com/blog/my-life/do-i-have-the-golden-key-to-mommy-hell/comment-page-1/#comment-113 Sonriendo Tue, 23 Feb 2010 10:44:54 +0000 http://www.maiteagahnia.com/blog/?p=982#comment-113 I thought it was tough going when they were littlies, but now No 1 girlie is 11 OMG Have to start allowing them a little bit of independence, without giving them enough rope to hang themselves. So very bloody difficult at times. We are starting with hormones too!! I thought it was tough going when they were littlies, but now No 1 girlie is 11 OMG Have to start allowing them a little bit of independence, without giving them enough rope to hang themselves. So very bloody difficult at times.

We are starting with hormones too!!

]]> By: Denise http://www.maiteagahnia.com/blog/my-life/do-i-have-the-golden-key-to-mommy-hell/comment-page-1/#comment-112 Denise Fri, 19 Feb 2010 15:57:09 +0000 http://www.maiteagahnia.com/blog/?p=982#comment-112 Thanks for that... I agree with the outcome and the decision to back away a bit, but having the talk. It's good advice for those of us who haven't gotten there yet, but will soon enough. I love you're bluntness. Thanks for that… I agree with the outcome and the decision to back away a bit, but having the talk. It’s good advice for those of us who haven’t gotten there yet, but will soon enough.

I love you’re bluntness.

]]> By: Maite Benito Agahnia http://www.maiteagahnia.com/blog/my-life/do-i-have-the-golden-key-to-mommy-hell/comment-page-1/#comment-111 Maite Benito Agahnia Fri, 19 Feb 2010 15:40:16 +0000 http://www.maiteagahnia.com/blog/?p=982#comment-111 Well Evy, since you knew me through puberty, you know exactly why I am worried! haha Well Evy, since you knew me through puberty, you know exactly why I am worried! haha

]]> By: Evy http://www.maiteagahnia.com/blog/my-life/do-i-have-the-golden-key-to-mommy-hell/comment-page-1/#comment-110 Evy Fri, 19 Feb 2010 15:26:10 +0000 http://www.maiteagahnia.com/blog/?p=982#comment-110 Dearest Maite, I´ve known you for 34 years (ooops sounds horrible) and I know you are doing a great job and that we have the inmense fortune that our children are completely opposite to what we were as teens. As long as you are concerned, open to communication and loving, your kids will be fine. They are great kids. love you!! Dearest Maite,

I´ve known you for 34 years (ooops sounds horrible) and I know you are doing a great job and that we have the inmense fortune that our children are completely opposite to what we were as teens.

As long as you are concerned, open to communication and loving, your kids will be fine. They are great kids.

love you!!

]]> By: angela http://www.maiteagahnia.com/blog/my-life/do-i-have-the-golden-key-to-mommy-hell/comment-page-1/#comment-109 angela Fri, 19 Feb 2010 12:28:41 +0000 http://www.maiteagahnia.com/blog/?p=982#comment-109 maite, i have been there for awhile and have handled it differently at times. the deal i made with jake ( who is 14 now, 12 when we allowed msn and xbox360chatting, 13 for facebook, 14 for cell phone and texting) was that i would have all passwords and access to his accounts. i never said that i would use them, just that i had access in case i felt that i needed to. in the two years he has been on, i have never gone in to his chats. looking over his shoulder though, i once found him swearing ( shit ) in a convo and made a big deal about it...made him apologize, say his mom busted him and then explained to him my issue was that girl's parent reading his words and thinking badly of him ( that affects him ). i am one of those parents who blindly believe they have a good relationship with their child;) and that he would come to me if he was dealing - or one of his friends was dealing - with something to big for him. which he has done. brought about by chatting. so it is working for us. i do watch carefully. i am a friend on his facebook, as is one of his close girlfriends. between the two of them? frig, i know everything going on in their whole highschool,lol. teens TALK incessantly- the info is there if you need it. you are good to be concerned, many parents aren't. let him know you are there, well versed and ready to step in if it gets to much for him. and then have a drink;) and hope to god he is not reading your facebook and emails;)) maite, i have been there for awhile and have handled it differently at times.

the deal i made with jake ( who is 14 now, 12 when we allowed msn and xbox360chatting, 13 for facebook, 14 for cell phone and texting) was that i would have all passwords and access to his accounts. i never said that i would use them, just that i had access in case i felt that i needed to.

in the two years he has been on, i have never gone in to his chats. looking over his shoulder though, i once found him swearing ( shit ) in a convo and made a big deal about it…made him apologize, say his mom busted him and then explained to him my issue was that girl’s parent reading his words and thinking badly of him ( that affects him ). i am one of those parents who blindly believe they have a good relationship with their child;) and that he would come to me if he was dealing – or one of his friends was dealing – with something to big for him. which he has done. brought about by chatting. so it is working for us.

i do watch carefully. i am a friend on his facebook, as is one of his close girlfriends. between the two of them? frig, i know everything going on in their whole highschool,lol. teens TALK incessantly- the info is there if you need it.

you are good to be concerned, many parents aren’t. let him know you are there, well versed and ready to step in if it gets to much for him. and then have a drink;) and hope to god he is not reading your facebook and emails;))

]]> By: Kelly http://www.maiteagahnia.com/blog/my-life/do-i-have-the-golden-key-to-mommy-hell/comment-page-1/#comment-108 Kelly Fri, 19 Feb 2010 11:31:02 +0000 http://www.maiteagahnia.com/blog/?p=982#comment-108 Great post. Really. You are not naive. But...it IS just beginning. It sounds like you've done a great job keeping the line of communication open - and that's key. As long as you have that, personally I think you're golden. It's the hardest part. Because they eventually act like they don't want to have anything to do with you (even though deep down they know they need you more than ever!) Yes, they will still hide stuff from you (didn't you, from your parents?) You just have to have faith you've taught them well and right from wrong, and that they will still come to you for the really important stuff. Sorry so long-winded. I think you know, we've gone through (are still going through!) all this. It's a work in progress. As long as they know you love them, you haven't fucked them up. Good luck! :) Great post. Really. You are not naive. But…it IS just beginning. It sounds like you’ve done a great job keeping the line of communication open – and that’s key. As long as you have that, personally I think you’re golden. It’s the hardest part. Because they eventually act like they don’t want to have anything to do with you (even though deep down they know they need you more than ever!)

Yes, they will still hide stuff from you (didn’t you, from your parents?) You just have to have faith you’ve taught them well and right from wrong, and that they will still come to you for the really important stuff.

Sorry so long-winded. I think you know, we’ve gone through (are still going through!) all this. It’s a work in progress. As long as they know you love them, you haven’t fucked them up. Good luck! :)

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